Looking For Now

Your guide to the best online hookup sites

Being single during any holiday that has gift trading or public displays of affections (PDAs) involved is never fun. But now that most of you ambitious, young, and fabulous looking singles have survived another year of awkward office parties and New Years Eve parties (with your best friend for a date), it’s time to broaden your horizons. Whether you’re looking for true love in 2008 or just for a good time, you’ll need to put yourself out there if you want to hook up.

Regardless of whether you’re in search of a soul mate or a sexual fix, gone are the days of answering M4M personal ads in the back of local gay rags or calling up a gay telephone chat line at 2 a.m. Instead, most of the gay men who originally used those services (and millions more) now use the Internet to track down their next serving of studmuffin or their next round of bro-mance.

Never used a hook-up site before? The first thing you need to know is that most sites will require a photograph of you. TIP: Avoid using a headless body shot or a picture that includes your dog, your sister, or some porn star.

Most of the more popular sites also require some sort of membership fee. TIP: Sometimes you get what you pay for, so if you’re using a free service then don’t complain if you’re not scoring the greatest men! It’s okay to start out at a free site, but if you don’t get results then move on to something better.

Once you’ve paid or signed up for a free membership at a hookup site, you’ll need to fill out a profile and invent a catchy screen name. TIP: If you’re over 30, don’t use the word “boy” in your profile. Be as honest as you can, because it will definitely help you out in the long run – even if you just want a quickie.

When you need a man, you want him fast. So read on for your down and dirty guide to some of the best places online to track down the man of your dreams – when time is of the essence!

Adam4Adam
This site is entirely free. There are no catches because the site makes its money with advertising. Adam4Adam offers up hot men who are looking for both love and random hook-ups. If love is your goal then I strongly suggest this site. I’ve met numerous guys who were down to earth and who I ended up having several dates with. If you see your co-worker or a good buddy on this site, there’s no shame in hitting them up or sending them a wink since thousands of men use the site for many different reasons. Whether you’re into black, Asian, Caucasian, Latino or European men, Adam4Adam has a great mix – and that’s why I love the site.

AshleyMadison
This site has received a lot of flack because its purpose is to hook up folks who are already in relationships. AshleyMadison doesn’t necessarily condone affairs or dishonesty in relationships, but the owners have publicly said that they’re just a facilitator. If someone cheats, it’s because they were entertaining the idea of doing so long before they ever log onto this site. Many single gay men come here for no-strings-attached sex. However, if you believe in karma then you know it’s a bitch. All I’m saying is this – think about it first and make your choices carefully!

CraigsList
Besides jobs and furniture, you can find sex on here, too! However, you can expect to find mostly headless body shots of guys looking for a quick, anonymous fuck. It’s free, so you can’t really complain. Surprisingly, I know a few people who have been pleasantly surprised with the hot, discreet guys that they discovered on Craigslist!

ManHunt
ManHunt is a versatile site that offers both free and membership accounts. Free accounts have some restrictions, so I recommend joining with their trial offer, just to see if you like it. If you do, you can upgrade after the trial expires. TIP: To save yourself some frustration, just pay for the trial and skip the free account. Free accounts can only contact a limited number of guys per day, they can’t see enlarged images, and they can’t access all of the profile images. Trust me – you’ll want to know what the guys really look like, and one small photo can’t really tell you that. ManHunt features goodlooking guys with ages that range from early twenties to late sixties. ManHunt also has a good-sized community of HIV Positive men. In my experience, the guys here are very upfront about their status, which makes things better for everyone. There will always be dishonest people, though – so always take precautions.

BigMuscle
This is a niche site for muscle men who love muscles. I’ve avoided this site because I don’t consider myself a gym rat. But if that’s what you’re looking for, then you’ll find some hot fuckers here! Expect to meet porn stars, hustlers, body builders, and any other muscle men that you lust after.

MySpace
Using MySpace for dating or hookups can be tricky, since almost anyone you encounter will be either a friend or a friend-of-a-friend. For a real date, MySpace works great, since you can meet people who come pre-vetted by your most trusted friends. If you’re just looking to embrace your inner ho, this might not be the best place unless you don’t mind everyone else knowing your business!

Men4SexNow
Some would say that we saved the best for last.! Men4SexNow features an interface that’s almost as sexy (almost) as the legions of hot guys who swear by it.