Each month, porn star Johnny Hazzard answers your questions about gay sexuality and relationships. Need advice? You can submit your questions to Johnny Hazzard at:
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How do I go out with someone whose friends I really don’t like?
– Jimmy in Los Angeles, CA

I think the first step is to talk about this with your partner and to explain how you feel. You may find that he doesn’t like those friends for the same reason. However, he might  also tell you about unique qualities they possess and explain why he values their friendship. It could turn out that the two of you just don’t mesh, but at least things will be out in the open.


How do I tell someone that I’m not interested in them without hurting their feelings?
– Chris in Edison, NJ

You just did, sort of. I'm a big proponent of being upfront and honest, regardless of how it may be interpreted by other people. As long as it’s done respectfully and civilly, you can probably avoid hurting someone’s feelings. People usually appreciate honesty, and as long as you temper your honesty with empathy and sensitivity you should be okay. Do it in person, if you have the balls. It’ll make you a better man.


I’m a size queen, but all I've been meeting are smaller guys. Should I settle or keep looking?
– Adam in Long Beach, CA

When I was younger, I used to have a type that I never strayed from. Now that I’m older I’ve found that the "type" I was so set on isn’t that important. No one should “settle” for anything – because that only leaves them feeling half satisfied and resentful. For the time being, go for what makes you happy and what you want. But try to take a look at the “big” picture, because you may be missing out on something great. Big things sometimes do come in small packages, my friend.


How do you define flirting? Is it a look, a word, a touch – or maybe a text?
– Peter in Albany, NY

Flirting is in the eye of the flirter and can take many forms. When you’re interested in someone, sometimes helping them out (such as helping them to change a flat tire when you know they don't know how to do it themselves) can show your interest just as much as putting your hands down their pants. If you’re doing things because you're attracted, you're flirting.


How long should I wait before reaching out after a first date?
– Malcolm in Baraboo, WI

If you both had a great time and a nice kiss goodnight, a little text before bed can be sweet. But as far as going further, perhaps to secure a second date... If the good night text didn't already make it  happen, waiting a couple days is probably good. If you texted a good night message after the first date, then you should wait for him to write back or to call. If I’m making it   sound like courtship is all a game, that's because it is a game. So don’t be afraid to strategize a little.

Johnny Hazzard lives in Venice, CA., where he is hard at work developing a line of lamps and jewelry. He graduated from Erotic State Univ. at the top of his class.

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